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Helping Your Parent Transition to Assisted Living with Confidence and a Plan

April 18, 2025
David Parker, Esq.
White Plains revocable living trust
David Parker, White Plains and New City NY Estate Planning Attorney
David Parker, Esq.
David Parker is an attorney who specializes in Estate Planning and Elder Law and has been practicing law for 30 years. Be it Wills, Trusts, Powers of Attorney, Health Care Proxies, or Medicaid Planning, David provides comprehensive and caring counsel for seniors and their families. A large portion of David’s practice is asset protection strategies so that families do not lose their hard earned savings to nursing home care costs. He also handles probate administration for the settlement of estates.
When you have a close relative or friend who might benefit from moving into a development for aging adults, you might not know how to go about getting from where he is now to settling him into the community of his dreams.

As the average entry age into assisted living is around 85, it is crucial to prepare for possible increases in care needs, including issues related to dementia or cognitive decline. Within one to two years, their care needs often rise significantly, sometimes requiring a transition to a nursing home.

This quick change in health status highlights why early planning is essential. By preparing for legal and financial decisions now, families can avoid crisis-mode decision-making later. Parker Law Firm in White Plains works with families to help ease an aging adult into assisted living while identifying planning solutions for financing long-term care.

How Do You Find Quality, Affordable Care for Your Aging Parent?

When Mary first came to Parker Law Firm, she was overwhelmed. Her mother's health had taken a turn for the worse, and the need for a care facility became urgent. Mary didn’t know where to start—how to choose the right facility, protect her mom’s finances, or ensure quality care. She was in tears and completely stressed out. With guidance from David Parker, elder care attorney in White Plains, Mary created a plan. Together, they found the right care facility and used a revocable trust to safeguard her mother’s assets. In just a few weeks, Mary went from feeling trapped to being empowered and reassured that her mother’s future was protected.

The Role of a Revocable Trust in Planning

For families in White Plains, using a revocable trust is a strategic way to prepare for a loved one’s transition to assisted living. A revocable trust is a flexible estate planning tool that allows you to:

  • Maintain control of your assets while alive
  • Ensure a seamless transition of asset management if you become incapacitated
  • Avoid probate, saving time and preserving privacy for your family
  • Provide clear instructions for how your assets should be used, including for care needs

At Parker Law Firm, we help families tailor revocable trusts to fit their unique situations—like Mary’s—giving them peace of mind and financial clarity.

Talking to Your Parent About Assisted Living

Bringing up the idea of assisted living with a parent is rarely easy. It’s emotional. It’s personal. And it often brings up fears—about losing independence, leaving home, or facing the unknown. The key to success is starting the conversation early, before a crisis forces rushed decisions.

Here are some ways to approach the conversation:

  • Choose the Right Setting: Talk in a quiet, comfortable place with plenty of time for discussion.
  • Lead with Empathy: Share your concerns gently. Let your parent know you’re focused on their well-being.
  • Acknowledge Their Fears: Listen carefully and validate their feelings. This builds trust and understanding.
  • Highlight the Positives: Many assisted living communities offer social events, wellness programs, and supportive care that can improve your parent’s quality of life.

Curious about the difference between assisted living and nursing homes? Read more in our article.

What If Your Parent is Not Ready to Discuss Moving to a Care Facility?

It’s normal for parents to resist the idea of moving to assisted living, especially if they still feel independent. Don’t expect one conversation to change their mind. Instead, think of this as the start of an ongoing dialogue. Each talk can help them process the idea and gain comfort with the plan.

How Legal Planning Supports This Transition

Beyond emotional readiness, legal planning is essential. David Parker, as an elder care attorney, helps families like yours create strong, legally sound strategies for this major life transition. That includes:

  • Drafting a Revocable Trust to protect and manage assets
  • Creating Powers of Attorney so trusted individuals can step in when needed
  • Setting Up Advance Directives to honor your parent’s wishes regarding medical care
  • Navigating Medicaid Eligibility if a higher level of care becomes necessary

These tools are not just paperwork—they are your family’s safety net.

Plan Today for Peace Tomorrow

Whether your parent is already showing signs of needing extra help or you’re just beginning to think about the future, now is the right time to plan. Legal and financial preparation can transform a stressful situation into one where your loved one is cared for—and your family is protected.  Book a call with Parker Law Firm to discuss how we can guide you and your aging parent through the transition and create a clear, personalized plan for your family’s future.

Reference: JAMA Internal Medicine (Nov 6, 2023) “The Natural History of Disability and Caregiving Before and After Long-Term Care Entry

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