If you are taking care of your aging parents and still helping your own children, you are part of the sandwich generation. If you feel as if you will never be able to go off duty because of all the people who make demands on your time and money, here are some strategies for the sandwich generation.
Quite a few people start having children when they are in their forties. Your parents could already be in their sixties and seventies, when you have toddlers. By the time your children are in high school, you will be in your fifties with parents in their seventies or eighties. You should be focused on plowing lots of money into your retirement account. However, instead you find yourself pulled in many different directions, without the energy or resources you need for yourself.
How People with Adult Children Can Get Pulled at Both Ends
You do not have to be raising young children to be in the sandwich generation. Your children might be adults but need financial help because of student loans or other financial pressures. Additional reasons you might need to assist your adult children include things like:
These are only a few examples of the reasons you might find yourself having to lend a helping hand to your parents and your adult children.
The Financial Impact of Taking Care of Two Generations
Any of these situations can put demands on your time, energy and finances. People who take care of their older parents and their own children often suffer as a result. For example, these caregivers drive everyone else to their medical appointments but do not have to time to go for routine checkups. There are not enough hours in the day to go for a walk to de-stress or get physical exercise. Sleep deprivation is common among “sandwichers.”
The financial impact of dual caregiving can be both short-term and long-term. If you are constantly picking up medications and groceries for your elderly parents and helping your children financially, you might find yourself having a cash flow strain. The time the double caregiving takes from your schedule can also make it impossible for you to engage in the amount of gainful employment you would like, so you can increase your retirement savings.
How to Handle the Stress and Exhaustion of Dual Caregiving for the Sandwich Generation
You are not alone. Many people have walked this path before you. They offer these suggestions:
Remember, this stage is temporary. You are creating memories that you will treasure.
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