

When most people hear the phrase “estate planning,” they often think of a last will and testament. While a will is important, it’s not the only document you need. Estate planning isn’t just about what happens after you’re gone, it also protects you and your loved ones during your lifetime if you become incapacitated.
Every adult in White Plains should consider having two key documents in place: a health care proxy and a durable power of attorney. These documents help ensure that your wishes are respected and that your loved ones can act on your behalf without facing unnecessary legal obstacles.
Life can change in an instant. Imagine being in an accident, falling ill, or facing surgery. Without the right documents, your family might be left struggling in court to gain the authority to help you.
A recent article in Kiplinger highlighted how these two documents are essential for every adult. And as one real-life story shows, failing to have them in place can create confusion and stress during an already difficult time.
A health care proxy, sometimes called a health care power of attorney, allows you to appoint someone you trust to make medical decisions on your behalf if you’re unable to do so. This person, your ‘health care agent,’ can receive medical information as permitted under New York law and make decisions in line with your wishes.
A health care proxy can also include instructions about a living will. This allows you to outline specific wishes, such as whether you’d want life-sustaining treatments like artificial nutrition or ventilators in certain medical conditions.
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The person you name is entirely up to you. Younger adults may choose a parent, spouse, or close friend. Couples often appoint each other, while older adults may choose an adult child. The key is selecting someone you trust to honor your wishes.
In New York, a health care proxy must be signed in the presence of two adult witnesses, who also sign to confirm that you appeared to be of sound mind. Your chosen agent cannot also serve as a witness. Once in place, the proxy takes effect only if your doctor determines that you cannot make your own medical decisions.
A durable power of attorney (POA) gives someone you trust the authority to manage your financial and legal matters if you cannot. Unlike a health care proxy, which deals with medical decisions, a POA covers practical and financial issues.
The person you appoint, your “agent”, may be able to:
Without this document, your family might be forced to go to court just to pay your bills or access your accounts.
New York law requires specific wording and formalities for a power of attorney to be valid. Since 2021, the state has simplified the form, but it still must be signed, dated, and notarized. The “durable” part means the POA remains effective even if you lose capacity, which is exactly when it is needed most.
Consider Sarah, a healthy woman in her 40s who never thought she’d need legal documents to protect her. After a sudden accident left her in a coma, her family assumed they could step in. But because she hadn’t set up a health care proxy or power of attorney, they faced roadblocks at every turn:
This story highlights why estate planning is so important—not just for older adults, but for everyone.
Planning for aging is about dignity, independence, and peace of mind. If you or a loved one is in or near White Plains, NY, we invite you to explore how estate planning can safeguard your golden years.
Parker Law Firm can help create a thoughtful estate plan that brings clarity in uncertain times. Book a call and take that first important step.
References: Kiplinger, “I’m an Estate Planning Attorney: These Are the Two Legal Documents Everyone Should Have” and Curran Estate & Elder Law, PLLC, highlighting insights from Forbes Advisor, “Hiring An Elder Law Attorney” (Feb. 12, 2024) and New York State Attorney General’s Health Care Proxy
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